im 16 and I’m a virgin. I’ve been watching porn for like a year now because of how sexually frustrated i am. i read all these stories about these great orgasms and NO MATTTER HOW HARD I TRY i neveeeeer get one. fingering myself doesn’t give me the satisfaction and when i rub my clit … like i feel this tingly GREAT sensation .. but never an orgasm. and my goal before I’m 18 is to get one … :( any tips?

There are number of methods used by women to masturbate. 
• Clitoris massages using hands and fingers.
• Rubbing the vulva against pillows, clothes or furniture.
• Vagina plays a minimum role during the masturbation practice, but vaginal penetration during masturbation is not unusual.
• Nipple stimulation along with clitoral or vaginal stimulation.
However, it is important to know that there is no defined correct or right way to masturbate. It varies from one female to the other due to the fact that each woman’s anatomy is slightly different from others. There is also a great deal of difference in the psychological make-up of each female, making each women go for different masturbation methods. Some women find it difficult to adapt new methods for masturbation.
Mentioned below are the steps to obtain the best results of masturbation-
Relax well before starting with the masturbation process. It is essential to get into the mood, by taking a warm bath and a glass of wine. Removing most of the clothing, lying on your back, legs bent and spread apart ensures better mood for performing the activity.
Recalling the exciting past sexual encounters and fantasizing about it. Reading an erotic magazine or watching an adult video.
Exploring one’s body, most prominently the sensitive areas. Exploring different parts of genitals and looking at them are important steps for getting aroused. Touching inner labia, outer labia, clitoris, vagina and perineum.
Using fingers to stroke different parts of vulva, with special attention to the clitoris and labia. Applying different speed, pressure and motion helps in building up excitement. Placing the fingers on either side of the clitoris and stroking up and down, or placing two fingers on the clitoral hood and rubbing in circular motion are well known methods.
Experimenting with different types of touch, tickle, pinch, and pulling the genitals. Palm and knuckles can also be used besides fingers.
Once exploring process is over, further stimulation of vulva is done. Slip the finger in between the folds of vulva and massage the inner labia, pulling on them gently. Slip the finger to the top of vulva and place them on top of the clitoris. They are then moved up and down in a jiggling motion. If there is a need, one or two fingers can be inserted into the vagina. Experiencing orgasm in the very first or a few first times is sometimes not possible.
Clitoral Stimulation - Clitoris is stimulated but either using one or two fingers or palm of the hand. Sometimes, direct contact with the clitoris is too intense, so stimulation is done near and around the clitoris. Some may prefer to have a layer of clothing between the hand and clit.
G-Spot Stimulation - Inserting a vibrator or dildo into the vagina can provide the vagina with a feeling of fullness and stimulate the G-spot. It is easy to locate the G-spot, but manual masturbation cannot provide adequate stimulation. For such cases, sexual toys used more often.
Vibrators - They are most commonly used for clitoral stimulation, vaginal stimulation and anal stimulation.
Showers - A detachable shower head is most commonly used by women. Showers with versatile control, which switches the water from a steady stream to a pulsating jet spray.
There is no specific way to masturbate and no fixed number of times in a day, which it is practiced. Any frequency of masturbation is acceptable, as long as an individual is comfortable doing it. It is a very normal and healthy sexual practice.

^ hope that helped!


after me and my boyfriend have sex i get pains below my belly button usually and they last on and off for a couple of times, he doesnt like condoms so we use the pullout method and every time he cums on my stomach so i know hes not cuming inside of me.. so why am i haveing pains afterwards

there could be a lot of reasons because of this. it could be because of his size, how deep he penetrates you, the position you’re in, etc. could you elaborate on this please?

p.s. if you don’t want to get pregnant, you should probably use condoms if you aren’t on birth control


First time lapdancing for a guy. Is this gay? 

Here goes the story of this one time, in class when me and a guy friend (we’re both guys, we both had girlfriends at the time) got some time to ourselves, meaning no classmates or other students/teachers around. 
So he challenged me to give him a lapdance where I’d strip for him. Plain and simple, right out of the blue.

I agreed to it, however reluctantly, not thinking too much about doing it as we usually challenge each other to some crazy bets. I was mostly just pondering why he’d ask me to give him a lapdance.

So he got his laptop out and put on some assumed sexy, slow song. I began moving to the music and pulled out a chair that I pushed him down onto. I had never performed a lapdance before, so I just kind off made some moves up, slowly moving and swaying my hips to the music.

I workout pretty often and has a decently muscular body, with a defined back and my butt is pretty tight and firm whenever I bend over. He, however, is a chubby and hugable type. This allowed me to at least move somewhat seductively.

I was wearing some baggy jeans and a button up shirt, so as I swayed my hips, I bent over in front of him, the jeans straining against my butt while I arched my back, showing it all to him. Slowly I started dancing and grinded my butt against his crotch, touching his thighs and spreading his legs open. As I continued, I unbuttoned my shirt, one button at a time every ~15th second or so, moving around in front of him, touching myself and him. Every now and then, I’d let my hand trail across his chest, shoulders and neck.

When my shirt was fully unbuttoned, I got down on my knees in front of him and leaned backwards so that my shirt would come off in what I assumed would look sexy.

Leaning back up against him, in a position as if I was going to give him a blowjob, I noticed that a huge tent had raised in his pants and I just couldn’t help myself from laughing real loud. This kinda killed the mood, that I had somehow managed to actually arouse the guy, and he was blushing real hard.

End of story, we’re still friends, even after that one dance. Though I do think he has a crush on me.

yes, this sounds like something straight people would not do. i think he has a crush on you too and possibly likes you. it’s good that you guys are still friends though!


Anonymous said: Hi I'm 16 and I've only masturbated with fingers once b/c it feels strange I don't know any tip on other things I could do or making it more comfortable? x

try toys, they bring out a whole new perspective on masturbation :)


Anonymous said: Is it bad to lick the anus of a man?

why would it be? 


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Anonymous said: Hi Is it a bad idea to have sex in the car? At night with engines and lights off in the empty parking lot?

sex in the car is fun the first couple of times, but after a while it gets boring. cause the space is too cramped up (at least for me) but it’s definitely not a bad idea!


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Anonymous said: When I'm having sex with my girlfriend, altought I do everything right and spend a lot of time in the foreplay (ex. I do oral sex and finger, ect), she can't reach the orgasm no matter what we do. She just feels really frustraded and she tends to give up because I'm tired or she's tired. How can I help her? She doesn't say it's my fault but I can't help but feel it is.

find her g-spot and rub her clit. i find myself orgasming easily in the position doggy style while rubbing my own clit! but really, it’s not your fault. girls often have trouble orgasming during sex but we still have a wonderful time


Anonymous said: Hi! I'm ready to lose my virginity how can you make it hurt less? I'm a girl

try starting out with fingering, taking one finger in then two and so on. it’s like a smaller version of a dick and make sure you use lube and you’re actually turned on. being wet is the best lube!


Is it normal for me to like shake and feel like screaming when my bf eats me out? Like it feels amazing but i think he might think its really weird:L like last time i made him stop cause i was gonna scream and my parents were home :/ What can I do to stop the shaking/screaming? HELP PLEASE A ND THANKYOU!

this is COMPLETELY normal. in fact, this is pretty hot for a guy to watch. he LOVES it when you shake and scream because he knows he’s doing a good job. don’t change that. if you want to stop from screaming so loudly though, muffle yourself into a pillow!


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